Blindly listen to Coach. He knows a thing or two
Swipe right on like 85% or more (trust me. They won’t all make it)
Swipe on the apps and keep going even when it sucks. It feels like a lot of work but it’s worth it.

for me the biggest takeaway is that I had to do the work on me before I could get guy. There was a couple of months where my professional life was in an upheaval and I needed to work through that and I did with support from this program .
When I hadn’t found my guy yet, I was so happy for my sisters who had found their guy but found myself wondering when it would be my time. I really had to focus on doing the work and commit to making myself better. We all have the journey we’re supposed to have….

key takeaways on getting into this relationship was talking my shit and speaking up about my boundaries and preferences each and every time – specifically not just physical safety boundaries which came easy to me in the program – but being able to expand that to all of my boundaries and preferences and letting my partner show up for me again and again and again in the way I preferred. Before I had a bad habit of being “cute and mute” which led me to being disappointed often by those who couldn’t read my mind! not anymore! Thank you Anwar and Shoya!

the lessons in boundaries and vulnerability were LOUD loud! Everyone is right it’s more than about getting the guy…you do some major inner work in here! That is the only reason I got as far as I did and will be the foundation in how I show up in my relationship going forward! ❤️🥰

The journey towards getting my guy began on our very first call. I was hanging on to a man who was ill-suited to me, simply because I thought there would be no one better if we broke up. This was a pattern that stood in my way for most of my adult life. Coach Anwar helped me to get over the scarcity mindset, break up with the ex, and allow space for something new. Much to my surprise, there were a lot of interesting men, even in my mid-forties, even in San Francisco! I met my beau in vivo, through a mutual friend. The GYG program provided an excellent framework to evaluate our budding relationship, and I found that my guy sailed through the funnel quite naturally. I feel at peace and excited about what is to come. Ladies, I’m a believer, the change begins within!

my biggest takeaway was I finally learned how to use my voice and set boundaries. When I had problems or issues, I would do so in ways that was demeaning not realizing that I was just in a hyper independent/survival mode, not actually living. I had a voice but I was using it all wrong. I had to sit with myself and get REAL! With all the therapy and tools that I’ve learned from this program, I had to do some rethinking, relearning, and reparenting. There were traumas and triggers holding me back and once I realized that I was sitting in victim mentality and that I should see myself as a survivor, it was like scales fell off my eyes. My guy is everything that I’ve been praying for and what I wrote down. I also realized that the guy that I thought was my type was my downfall. He’s nothing like what I go for but it was his energy, his kindness, his patience with me, how he gives me space to talk and listens to me, I’ve learned new things about me and most important, how I feel completely safe, vulnerable, and comfortable with him! For so long I’ve operated in my masculine and just micromanaged all of my relationships. He has truly given me space to be feminine which no one in my dating life has ever given me that. I can be vulnerable and set boundaries and he’s on the same page. I can’t wait to share everything with him!🥰😍♥️

Some of my biggest takeaways:
1. Trust the process, no matter how intimidating or unnatural it may feel. Every step and assignment is intentional and has a purpose.
2. It was crucial for me to check my ego at the door throughout the dating program and process.
3. Be open to dating everyone! If I had continued to be hyper-focused on dating black men, I wouldn’t have been able to keep my dating momentum. In 2 1/2 months, only TWO black men got through the initial funnel.
4. Asking others for their “highs and lows” of the day was an organic way for me to practice vulnerability. Even today, I use this with my guy and my direct reports at work. I’ve found most people to be into it, and they began asking me for highs and lows without being prompted!
5. Telling close friends about my participation in the GYG program helped with my feelings of shame about previous toxic relationships. Both my single and married friends were fascinated by the program and opened up about their dating snafus and regrets. It helped show me I am not alone and reinforced that no one has taught us how to date.

1) The funnel works
2) A man who prioritizes you will have no problem moving the conversation to email (if that’s what you want/need)
3) “Would my future husband do this?” or “Would my future husband treat me this way?” is such a simple yet consistently dependable sanity check
4) Often times that trigger you may experience is about you and not your partner/gold medalist (que “The Model”‼️)
5) All things work together for our highest and best good… the guy(s) you BOL are not the be all, end all. You have options sis.
So many more, but I’ll leave these here for now ☺️

#1 SELF-FOCUS.–Checking in with myself especially emotionally. Creating trust and safety within myself. SELF WORTH! Being in my MCE! Being authentically me, not necessarily being always prim and proper. THANK YOU for the support.

some of my my biggest takeaways are to trust the process. Knowing and setting your boundaries is key. The inner work on familial relationships was a huge breakthrough for me. The biggest single takeaway for me is knowing my relationship needs. It was critical for me, before the program I was dating without truly knowing what I needed.

so many.. but I took your advice to get serious about what I really wanted, to show vulnerability, and to take things slow.

Thank you everyone!!!! ❤️
My biggest takeaways are:
1. The funnel is the best thing that happened to me.
2. Speaking from my feelings and being vulnerable has so much power.
3. Having this community and the support from the coaches has been so encouraging and I feel grateful to be here 😊