I learned that the help that I accept doesn’t have to make sense! And being able to say yes to the extravagant seeming offers are what brought us closer

Two things that Coach Anwar White said to me early in the process resonated.
1.) “You are many guy’s dream girl.” And the little pageant girl in me needed to hear that! This community of amazing women has made me realize that my many insecurities in my appearance, singleness, dating, etc. have little to do with me and more to do with the fact that I simply hadn’t met my person.
Hearing from other women encountering the same issues was comforting. So for any ladies reading this, know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.
2.) “Be who you are so the person looking for you can find you.” [paraphrased] As a people-pleaser (southerner, only daughter, Christian upbringing) I have been very good at prioritizing other people’s needs and being a chameleon in relationships.
True love in its purest form is born from a spirit of complete honesty and showing up as authentically yourself. Once I realized that, I started being in my MCE all the time and so when Corey expressed his affections, I have faith that he adores the real me. Because that’s the only “me” he’s ever met!
Parting advice– stay consistent, listen to the coaches, follow the program, and be your authentic self. Huge thanks also to Coach Shoya Collins for her infinite wisdom and super power of empathy. ❤️

1) The funnel works
2) A man who prioritizes you will have no problem moving the conversation to email (if that’s what you want/need)
3) “Would my future husband do this?” or “Would my future husband treat me this way?” is such a simple yet consistently dependable sanity check
4) Often times that trigger you may experience is about you and not your partner/gold medalist (que “The Model”‼️)
5) All things work together for our highest and best good… the guy(s) you BOL are not the be all, end all. You have options sis.
So many more, but I’ll leave these here for now ☺️

some of my my biggest takeaways are to trust the process. Knowing and setting your boundaries is key. The inner work on familial relationships was a huge breakthrough for me. The biggest single takeaway for me is knowing my relationship needs. It was critical for me, before the program I was dating without truly knowing what I needed.

First, thank you so much because with you and The GYG community, the deep work wouldn’t have happened and I wouldn’t have know how to strategize and even what I deserved. When I finally met my guy, it was so clear that he was really my guy from our first conversation. The funnel works wonders! Please use the funnel ladies. Also, please know that there are men out there who will be willing to treat like the queen you are, respect you, be kind to you, be your cheerleader, etc. They are out there and I know sometimes it feels hopeless, but try to keep the faith. Also, I had to internalize for myself that I deserved to be treated well. That was some thing that I don’t think I ever had really accepted until I started the program last January. I also gave myself lots of breaks from the app when I felt burnt out. I felt like that was very necessary. I also recognized how I became more vulnerable on dates and it just became easier and easier to share my thoughts so that when I met my guy , and my guy was also the kind of guy that shared his thoughts, we just vibed. I would not have been ready for him a year ago. Sending all of you ladies and Anwar, so much love! My therapist always says that the world is overpopulated lol and there are billions of people in the world there are definitely more than several guys out there for you!

Thank you!! 🙂 I’ve got a lot 😂
1. learning to be secure enough in myself to know I would be okay no matter the outcome with any man. I had multiple “false starts” but I think it was critical I experienced those to see every time (a) I survived and (b) there were more high quality men that came along down the line. Abundance vs scarcity mindset
2. 1 on 1’s with Anwar—I felt really seen by Anwar in this sessions and he often would tell me something I needed to hear/an uncomfortable truth that led to the most internal growth.
3. Pacing—definitely had my ebbs and flows of feeling defeated vs feeling energized. Taking breaks when I needed them and then getting back out there helped make dating sustainable long term.
4. Realizing that (the right) men respond positively to boundaries
5. Vulnerability took me a minute to understand but with time I really grasped it as expressing your feelings, whatever they are, and expressing them with regularity. I really feel like this is the superpower that bonds us to men, and other people in our life. This also helped me leaps and bounds with certain family members.
So thankful for this amazing group of women and the encouragement you bring each other. Thank you Anwar and Shoya for really helping me do the inner work!!

The journey towards getting my guy began on our very first call. I was hanging on to a man who was ill-suited to me, simply because I thought there would be no one better if we broke up. This was a pattern that stood in my way for most of my adult life. Coach Anwar helped me to get over the scarcity mindset, break up with the ex, and allow space for something new. Much to my surprise, there were a lot of interesting men, even in my mid-forties, even in San Francisco! I met my beau in vivo, through a mutual friend. The GYG program provided an excellent framework to evaluate our budding relationship, and I found that my guy sailed through the funnel quite naturally. I feel at peace and excited about what is to come. Ladies, I’m a believer, the change begins within!

Hi Coach, I had a lot of big takeaways:
1) trust the process! The coaches are right that there is a way this thing is supposed to flow and past medalists fell off after some time. When the coaches say BOL, talk through it with them but BOL. You want to see consistency from these men.
2) Vulnerability and Boundaries are key!! I finally got to a point in this program where I incorporated it every day with everything. I’d get up and say who’s getting my boundary today and I used my emotion wheel everyday. I made that a habit before I met my guy.
3) Banter is ESSENTIAL! Coach Anwar, when you did the class on banter, it brought out my playful side and really changed the potential HR pitfall that I could have easily fallen into. And it really builds chemistry and attraction.
4) Remain open! I know a lot of us have our types but cross examine what you think your type is. It’s probably based on something that hasn’t been and won’t serve you. I had to keep in mind that this is for fun and if I’m not enjoying it, then I move on.
5) You are and have always been a queen! Queens don’t perform and don’t subscribe to scarcity mindset. This program will get you there. See #1 above.
Thank you Coaches and GYG ladies for your support!

letting go of the previous mistakes in my life and past relationships to prepare myself for a healthy relationship that I deserve. My guy is everything that I need in this moment. He came at the perfect time to remind me that good men still exist.

This program has been transformative for my self-discovery journey! Investing in yourself can truly open unexpected doors. The biggest takeaway for me has been the power of self-investment. Through this program, I learned to prioritize self-care, set healthy boundaries, and embrace my identity.Another key lesson is the importance of staying curious. Curiosity allows me to approach life with an open mind and a willingness to learn and grow. It helps me connect with others on a deeper level by fostering empathy and understanding. I’m so grateful for this program. The journey of self-discovery is never-ending, and I’m excited to see what new things I learn about myself and the world around me!

I’d say my biggest takeaways were the importance of boundaries, vulnerability, being able to identify and voice your needs and talk yo ish! lol. I’m still working on all 4 but I’m a lot farther along than when I started.
Thank you for the support along the way! 😁