Thank you everyone 🥹 Sincerely, I feel so fortunate to be on this journey with a whole community. You all made me feel brave🥹
Anwar White, I don’t know if I can narrow it down to one takeaway 😭
1) Email is bae
2) It’s like IKEA, through em in the cart and let the funnel funnel!
3) “You don’t know who you are yet, so you don’t know who you need”. This advice from Coach Anwar keeps reminding me to stay open and curious when I want to default back to my old thinking.
4) “Dating isn’t personal, you don’t know them and they don’t know you!” Another Coach Anwar quote!
5) If it feels familiar you are on the wrong path😂 the right one feels foreign and weird at times, but the coaches are right here to help us to process the newness of it all❤️

Banter kept convos light and fun in the app, email and eventually all conversations. We were able to connect via our sense of humor and love of sports
* Feel free to still leverage your email funnel when you feel like you need it or want to switch things up! I got burnt out on the volume of text funnel guys not making it to phone dates and switched back to email for a few weeks which is where he entered the funnel.
* Don’t shy away from repeating doing the worksheets over time! Doing the relationship needs worksheet this second time around, I realized I’d missed how much of a top need respect of boundaries and dependability/reliability were for me growing up whereas the first time I believe I scored attention and feeling cherished the highest
* Talking my ish – throughout our dates I’d share things I was proud of or happy about, like completing 75Hard. I showed up as my full self and one of our dates actually ended up being a workout date since he knew I was doing 2 a days at that time.
* Patience (my Achilles heel) – the first time I went through the program I got my guy and it ended up being a false start for a few reasons. I started back swiping in Jan of 2024

So many amazing takeaways! I learned that it is okay to sit in my feminine and allow him to do for me. It is actually very liberating. I also learned that “I feel” statements and “I prefer” statements are key for healthy communication. Relatedly, I’ve built the muscle to establish boundaries and will continue to strengthen it while in the relationship. Finally, the man who is for you will respect your boundaries – no if, ands or buts about it. Thank you for all that you do coaches. I’m excited for what’s to come!

i learned so much about having patience, setting boundaries, and not settling for less than what i deserve. It took a year to find my guy and im so glad i waited for the right one. Also i was open to dating outside my comfort zones. My guy is 10 yrs younger but he’s treated me the best I’ve ever been treated. I’m so thankful to this program!!

Follow the funnel boundaries exactly. Trust the funnel and let it work for you. It will teach you to connect more to your heart and spend less time in your head and overthinking.
Use the apps. They provide invaluable practice. But also go outside and meet people, men and women. Smile with teeth. Open the space.
Set boundaries with everyone, practice vulnerability, stay in your feminine energy, and use your emotion wheel.
Be patient. The season of despair will show up around month three but you will make your way out.
Be liberal with your swiping. Other than fakes or ENM types, I swiped on pretty much everyone who was a 5 or above. The funnel will weed 99 percent of everyone out.
Date all kinds of people. You will learn a lot about yourself. Have fun with it and crack yourself up. Take screenshots of all the app craziness and share it.
If you screw up (and you will) it’s not the end of the world. I had to heal from my childhood wounds of striving to be perfect. Learn from your mistakes. They are some of the best lessons.
Follow Anwar’s advice implicitly. Even when it doesn’t make sense to you. He’s an (experienced) genius.
Your guy will not come in the package you expect but he will be exactly what you need him to be. You literally can’t say or do anything to screw up or chase him away.
Embrace the GYG community. Your support and insight has been very healing and helpful. We heal best in Community. Keep your cameras on during Tuesday tea and Thursday Q&A and interact, even when you feel like a hot mess. It will help you feel more connected.
Upgrade to VIP if you can. I did a lot of work on my own but Coach Shoya and Coach Anwar pushed me over the edge towards success.
Do the inner work. Go all in. Go deep. It will pay off in the end.
Find an accountability partner in the group and join the regional groups. Join the Over 50 group chat if you’re “seasoned.”

I’d say my biggest takeaways were the importance of boundaries, vulnerability, being able to identify and voice your needs and talk yo ish! lol. I’m still working on all 4 but I’m a lot farther along than when I started.
Thank you for the support along the way! 😁

1) Boundaries are both to keep me safe and the road map to teach people how to best love me 2) I get everything I ask for. Continue to dream and ask big 3) Seek what my soul wants for me, not what society wants for me 4) I did the best I could on my life’s journey, in relationships, with the information I had. Forgive myself and the teachers who taught me. 5) Trust God and do everything Anwar says. They don’t miss 😂 6) The work is just beginning 😩

that my guy would likely not be what I envisioned (my vision board still has a pic of Marvin Winans).
The relationship needs and deadly dating patterns assessments were critical because it helped me understand why I was dating the way I was, why it wasn’t working and what needs my guy would need to meet.
Also, the inner work that we do is so important because it readies you for your partner.

some of my my biggest takeaways are to trust the process. Knowing and setting your boundaries is key. The inner work on familial relationships was a huge breakthrough for me. The biggest single takeaway for me is knowing my relationship needs. It was critical for me, before the program I was dating without truly knowing what I needed.

I’d say my biggest takeaways were the importance of boundaries, vulnerability, being able to identify and voice your needs and talk yo ish! lol. I’m still working on all 4 but I’m a lot farther along than when I started.
Thank you for the support along the way! 😁

Thank you! There are many takeaways but I’ll share a couple things:
1. I learned to lean into my MCE (which was tough as first as a “perfect daughter” type) and this gave me the confidence to center myself in dating and not men.
2. I shared my boundaries and kept them. I was not flexible about them regardless of how cute he is nor where he is in the funnel or in medal status. This helped me to fairly evaluate their behavior and whether to move forward with them.