1) Boundaries are both to keep me safe and the road map to teach people how to best love me 2) I get everything I ask for. Continue to dream and ask big 3) Seek what my soul wants for me, not what society wants for me 4) I did the best I could on my life’s journey, in relationships, with the information I had. Forgive myself and the teachers who taught me. 5) Trust God and do everything Anwar says. They don’t miss 😂 6) The work is just beginning 😩

Ive always felt like I didn’t have a voice when it came to dating. I felt like I was at the whim of these men. I also struggled with being vulnerable after a very rough breakup with the father of my son. This program taught me how to be vulnerable in a way that makes me feel empowered and safe. How to communicate with men in a way they understand and how to gently reinforce my boundaries. I feel like for once I’m actually putting myself first. This program gave me the tools to feel more confident in dating and selecting better men. Understanding how to evaluate dates, conversations, and behaviors is so important. I feel reborn almost. And I found a special person along the way. Things I keep in mind… you can never say the wrong thing to the right person and to reflect on how things made me feel not just my opinion. Thank you Anwar and Shoya. ❤️

key takeaways on getting into this relationship was talking my shit and speaking up about my boundaries and preferences each and every time – specifically not just physical safety boundaries which came easy to me in the program – but being able to expand that to all of my boundaries and preferences and letting my partner show up for me again and again and again in the way I preferred. Before I had a bad habit of being “cute and mute” which led me to being disappointed often by those who couldn’t read my mind! not anymore! Thank you Anwar and Shoya!

The journey towards getting my guy began on our very first call. I was hanging on to a man who was ill-suited to me, simply because I thought there would be no one better if we broke up. This was a pattern that stood in my way for most of my adult life. Coach Anwar helped me to get over the scarcity mindset, break up with the ex, and allow space for something new. Much to my surprise, there were a lot of interesting men, even in my mid-forties, even in San Francisco! I met my beau in vivo, through a mutual friend. The GYG program provided an excellent framework to evaluate our budding relationship, and I found that my guy sailed through the funnel quite naturally. I feel at peace and excited about what is to come. Ladies, I’m a believer, the change begins within!

Banter kept convos light and fun in the app, email and eventually all conversations. We were able to connect via our sense of humor and love of sports
* Feel free to still leverage your email funnel when you feel like you need it or want to switch things up! I got burnt out on the volume of text funnel guys not making it to phone dates and switched back to email for a few weeks which is where he entered the funnel.
* Don’t shy away from repeating doing the worksheets over time! Doing the relationship needs worksheet this second time around, I realized I’d missed how much of a top need respect of boundaries and dependability/reliability were for me growing up whereas the first time I believe I scored attention and feeling cherished the highest
* Talking my ish – throughout our dates I’d share things I was proud of or happy about, like completing 75Hard. I showed up as my full self and one of our dates actually ended up being a workout date since he knew I was doing 2 a days at that time.
* Patience (my Achilles heel) – the first time I went through the program I got my guy and it ended up being a false start for a few reasons. I started back swiping in Jan of 2024

I absolutely enjoy Anwar he is caring, honest and compassionate. He help me look at things in a more positive way. His advice works my relationship is going well.

Some of the biggest takeaways are that it’s a process of self-discovery. It’s not just about finding your guy, but getting to the root of your own triggers and self-sabotaging behavior.
There were a few moments when I felt like giving up or it wasn’t working, but you have to continue and persevere with help from your coaches.

the lessons in boundaries and vulnerability were LOUD loud! Everyone is right it’s more than about getting the guy…you do some major inner work in here! That is the only reason I got as far as I did and will be the foundation in how I show up in my relationship going forward! ❤️🥰

#1 SELF-FOCUS.–Checking in with myself especially emotionally. Creating trust and safety within myself. SELF WORTH! Being in my MCE! Being authentically me, not necessarily being always prim and proper. THANK YOU for the support.

some of the biggest takeaways are that it’s a process of self-discovery. It’s not just about finding your guy, but getting to the root of your own triggers and self-sabotaging behavior.
There were a few moments when I felt like giving up or it wasn’t working, but you have to continue and persevere with help from your coaches.

my biggest takeaway was I finally learned how to use my voice and set boundaries. When I had problems or issues, I would do so in ways that was demeaning not realizing that I was just in a hyper independent/survival mode, not actually living. I had a voice but I was using it all wrong. I had to sit with myself and get REAL! With all the therapy and tools that I’ve learned from this program, I had to do some rethinking, relearning, and reparenting. There were traumas and triggers holding me back and once I realized that I was sitting in victim mentality and that I should see myself as a survivor, it was like scales fell off my eyes. My guy is everything that I’ve been praying for and what I wrote down. I also realized that the guy that I thought was my type was my downfall. He’s nothing like what I go for but it was his energy, his kindness, his patience with me, how he gives me space to talk and listens to me, I’ve learned new things about me and most important, how I feel completely safe, vulnerable, and comfortable with him! For so long I’ve operated in my masculine and just micromanaged all of my relationships. He has truly given me space to be feminine which no one in my dating life has ever given me that. I can be vulnerable and set boundaries and he’s on the same page. I can’t wait to share everything with him!🥰😍♥️

The funnel was definitely a mindset shift and using whether he is respectful of my boundaries and preferences as a filter.