1) The funnel works
2) A man who prioritizes you will have no problem moving the conversation to email (if that’s what you want/need)
3) “Would my future husband do this?” or “Would my future husband treat me this way?” is such a simple yet consistently dependable sanity check
4) Often times that trigger you may experience is about you and not your partner/gold medalist (que “The Model”‼️)
5) All things work together for our highest and best good… the guy(s) you BOL are not the be all, end all. You have options sis.
So many more, but I’ll leave these here for now ☺️

First, thank you so much because with you and The GYG community, the deep work wouldn’t have happened and I wouldn’t have know how to strategize and even what I deserved. When I finally met my guy, it was so clear that he was really my guy from our first conversation. The funnel works wonders! Please use the funnel ladies. Also, please know that there are men out there who will be willing to treat like the queen you are, respect you, be kind to you, be your cheerleader, etc. They are out there and I know sometimes it feels hopeless, but try to keep the faith. Also, I had to internalize for myself that I deserved to be treated well. That was some thing that I don’t think I ever had really accepted until I started the program last January. I also gave myself lots of breaks from the app when I felt burnt out. I felt like that was very necessary. I also recognized how I became more vulnerable on dates and it just became easier and easier to share my thoughts so that when I met my guy , and my guy was also the kind of guy that shared his thoughts, we just vibed. I would not have been ready for him a year ago. Sending all of you ladies and Anwar, so much love! My therapist always says that the world is overpopulated lol and there are billions of people in the world there are definitely more than several guys out there for you!

my biggest was that with patience and sticking to your boundaries and being open to a different positive experiences you can meet someone who is wonderful and thoughtful. I relearned to trust my gut and that boundaries are a must.

Definitely can say that I have developed a different mindset when it comes to relationships and that is with the help of my coach Anwar. He guided me and help me in dating and building a relationship with my current boyfriend. I don’t think I could have done this alone. I am so happy now.

So many amazing takeaways! I learned that it is okay to sit in my feminine and allow him to do for me. It is actually very liberating. I also learned that “I feel” statements and “I prefer” statements are key for healthy communication. Relatedly, I’ve built the muscle to establish boundaries and will continue to strengthen it while in the relationship. Finally, the man who is for you will respect your boundaries – no if, ands or buts about it. Thank you for all that you do coaches. I’m excited for what’s to come!

definitely that I can approach dating from a more empowered place. From BOLs to stating my preferences, to having and staying true to my boundaries, I get to chose versus just being chosen. The funnel also helped immensely with weeding out people who didn’t respect my boundaries.

Two things that Coach Anwar White said to me early in the process resonated.
1.) “You are many guy’s dream girl.” And the little pageant girl in me needed to hear that! This community of amazing women has made me realize that my many insecurities in my appearance, singleness, dating, etc. have little to do with me and more to do with the fact that I simply hadn’t met my person.
Hearing from other women encountering the same issues was comforting. So for any ladies reading this, know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.
2.) “Be who you are so the person looking for you can find you.” [paraphrased] As a people-pleaser (southerner, only daughter, Christian upbringing) I have been very good at prioritizing other people’s needs and being a chameleon in relationships.
True love in its purest form is born from a spirit of complete honesty and showing up as authentically yourself. Once I realized that, I started being in my MCE all the time and so when Corey expressed his affections, I have faith that he adores the real me. Because that’s the only “me” he’s ever met!
Parting advice– stay consistent, listen to the coaches, follow the program, and be your authentic self. Huge thanks also to Coach Shoya Collins for her infinite wisdom and super power of empathy. ❤️

Trusting the process is probably the biggest takeaway. And for me personally, one of my favorite lines that I got from this program is “you can never say the wrong thing to the right person.” It’s pushed me to be more comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings knowing that I will feel safe with the right person. I also take away that this will continue to be a journey and that I have to be conscious about being vulnerable.

The funnel was definitely a mindset shift and using whether he is respectful of my boundaries and preferences as a filter.

The journey towards getting my guy began on our very first call. I was hanging on to a man who was ill-suited to me, simply because I thought there would be no one better if we broke up. This was a pattern that stood in my way for most of my adult life. Coach Anwar helped me to get over the scarcity mindset, break up with the ex, and allow space for something new. Much to my surprise, there were a lot of interesting men, even in my mid-forties, even in San Francisco! I met my beau in vivo, through a mutual friend. The GYG program provided an excellent framework to evaluate our budding relationship, and I found that my guy sailed through the funnel quite naturally. I feel at peace and excited about what is to come. Ladies, I’m a believer, the change begins within!

my biggest was that with patience and sticking to your boundaries and being open to a different positive experiences you can meet someone who is wonderful and thoughtful. I relearned to trust my gut and that boundaries are a must.