What is Your Flirting Style?

June 10, 2025

So many people come to me and they’re like, I don’t know how to date, I don’t know how to flirt, and I’m like Girl, that’s ridiculous! Everyone knows how to flirt. Now, maybe you’re not flirting overtly, but everyone knows how to flirt, and I’m gonna give you the information for you to figure out exactly what your flirting style is.

I want to let you know that there are three ways to flirt, just like there are three ways to connect. Physically, intellectually, and emotionally.

There’s Physical – She’s giving you eyes, she’s giving you smiles, she’s giving you lips, and also there’s touch. Most of us have been programmed or conditioned to think that is how you flirt. But that doesn’t necessarily need to be your flirting style.

There’s also Intellectual – which is all about poking holes at arguments, banter, teasing, talking your ish! I’m an intellectual flirt, so I love doing that.

Also, Emotional – This is all about gratitude (thank yous) and compliments (“You are so strong”).

Reply and let me know what kind of flirt you are? What is your flirting style? And I want you to focus on that when you’re out and about and meeting these guys, so you don’t feel awkward or weird.

How to Evaluate Men Based on How They Pay for A Date

Girl, how a guy pays for a date will tell you everything you need to know about him. Now, if a guy wants to go 50-50 with you on a date, please understand that, as a woman, that actually means 80-20 because there’s invisible labor that has to be done from a woman’s perspective in a relationship, unfortunately. This man is looking for a mother, not necessarily a partner, girlfriend, or wife.

If a man is paying with cash on a date, please understand that he’s one of two things. He’s either a boomer generationally speaking or he might be doing some illegal activities, so if that’s your tea girl, go ahead and do your thing.

Now, some of the top credit cards that I see when a guy is paying for it, and this is what I call my double hair tuck credit cards, where when they pay for it, sometimes you might get a little nervous. Girl, Amex Platinum and Gold. Gold over platinum because Platinum is really more about luxury travel, not necessarily about dining.

Amex is kind of bougie. If you are looking for someone who has money, but is not as bougie and well-researched and disciplined, you’re looking for someone who’s paying with a Capital One Venture X, or a Chase Sapphire Reserve or Preferred.

Now, for some of the guys that are still kind of in their mid, middle class building, you’re looking for a Chase Freedom, you’re looking for a Capital One Venture, no X.

Then, for the guys that you want to completely walk away from… if he has a Wells Fargo, please understand that man has no integrity. Wells Fargo is shady and racist. If he has a Credit One credit card, girl, put your bun up, get your pocketbook, and leave the date immediately. He’s probably gonna ask you for gas money.

Lastly, if he uses a business credit card, this is a transaction; he’s writing it off, girl. And men who look at women transactionally are also going to be expecting one thing. And you know what that is. What has been your experience with how men pay on dates?

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