How Do Women Play Themselves in Dating

June 10, 2025

Do you want to know how women often are playing themselves in dating? Well, here’s what I know if you’re a high achieving woman, then you are gonna try to make things happen! You’re gonna be dating a lot and you’re thinking “I’m dating a lot. I’m winning. I’m doing it”

No, dating a lot is actually the wrong way of thinking about this.

I like to think about dating in a Quality over Quantity type of way, but so many of you are dating a lot of guys when most of the guys out there are not gonna be the one. Yeah, they’re not gonna be actually ready for a relationship. So, you’re doing all this work in a really shitty pond.

So, yeah, I can understand why you’re frustrated and disappointed, which puts you in a starting and stopping pattern of dating. It kills your momentum (and results) in dating. I teach my clients how to date with strategy so that they’re dealing with 9s and 10s and not the 5s and 6s.

So many of you are dealing with the 5s and 6s, and the danger part about dealing with the 5s and 6s is that because you’re engaging with them for a long time, whether it’s an ex, whether it’s someone that you’ve known for a long time; you will actually believe that all you deserve is a 5 or a 6, and it becomes your love upper limit.

That’s the danger of staying in those relationships, which is one of the reasons why I would prefer if you hold out until a 9 or a 10, versus settle and engage with the 5s and the 6s. Most of you all are engaging with the 5s and the 6s, and that’s why dating is such a painful experience and why often you are playing yourself in dating.

We get to do it a different way and if you want to learn how to do that way, book a consultation call with me and we will definitely work it out, alright? Hope that helps.

How To Get A Guy To Text Consistently

Want to know how to get a guy to text you consistently? Well here’s how you do it. You peace out and you find another guy who’s actually going to text you consistently. =)

Why do I say this? So many women out there are trying to make men do things. You can’t make a man do something. What you need to do is observe.

Two observations. His actions, and also, because a lot of dating coaches won’t tell you this, how you feel. And based on your feelings, we’re going to move accordingly. My dating clients often call me the love umpire because I am always, always, always talking about how these men are OUT. They’re out. If they’re not making it happen, if they’re not showing up for you, they’re OUT.

And as someone who has gotten women into relationships every week, and not just relationships, their best relationships in their lives, I know what it looks like. And if they’re not reaching out, if they’re not being consistent, he’s probably not your guy. And if you’re having problems letting these guys go, I have a question for you that I want you to ask yourself in those situations.

And that is,

Would my future husband do this?

Again… Would my future husband do this?

If the answer is no, then the guy’s gotta go! Periodt!

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