How Going For Your Type Can Hurt You

June 10, 2025

So I want to talk about how going for your type is actually hurting you in your dating and in your love life. And I know that sounds really crazy, but recently I read research about how your type is actually based on the archetype who has given you the most trauma. Now that is a little bit scary for me because I’m with a white man now, but I digress. =)

Here’s the danger of actually focusing on your type. When you find someone that is your type and he checks all of the boxes, oftentimes, you will override a lot of the shitty behavior that he will do because you ‘like him.’ That behavior is going to continue and continue until you can’t take it anymore and you’ve been driven into the ground!

Here’s what I want to offer to you. Your type may not be your type, and that’s okay.

As a dating coach who literally gets women into relationships every goddamn week, I literally see it all the time. And even last week, I recently had a group call with all of my clients and we went around the room and we talked to those women that had their guys, and each and every one of them said, this is definitely not a guy that I would go for, but it’s the most amazing relationship that I’ve ever been in.

Why? Because guess what? We focused on how it feels versus how it looks. And most of our types are based on how it looks. I had to get over it myself. I was focused on getting with a 6’2 light skinned guy who had an MBA from a top school. Girl, I’m with a 5’8 white, French Canadian, round man, and I’m the happiest that I’ve ever been.

I had to get over myself and how I wanted to impress others and I want to offer the same to you. I hope this helps as you’re thinking about your type and how we need to actually widen our net that we’re casting in dating because it is when we’re able to do that and get into a place of acceptance that we can actually form deeper connections and find our partner.

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