How to Date as a Plus-Sized Woman

June 10, 2025

Hey girl, I get a lot of questions as a dating coach about how to date as a plus sized woman. And I gotta tell you, it’s pretty much the same way that any other sized woman would date except for two major things that I just want to keep you focused on so that you can keep yourself safe while dating.

So the first thing that I want to offer to you is that I want to make sure that if a guy is talking about your body at all before the first date, I need you to block him. I need you to unmatch him. I need you to let him go. Why? He’s buttering you up.

He knows that you may be a bit insecure about that, and so, ultimately, he is trying to make sure that you’re feeling good and comfortable, so that he can potentially control you. Now not every guy is like this, but the majority of guys are, especially as they engage with curvier women.

The second thing that I want to offer to you, If you’re on a date with a guy and he touches you at all, touches your body, I want you to leave. Why do I say that?

Because he is grooming you. He thinks that because you are plus size that you don’t care about your body, and that he can do whatever he wants to it. And he can’t. A guy that is going to push your boundaries so early in the courtship process is a guy that you don’t want to be engaging with.

I hope this helps as you continue to engage in your love life and if you need any more tips or anything like that, let me know. Do whatever you need to do to stay safe out in these streets, girl.

Biggest Dating Mistake: Mission-based Dating

Hey girl, I want to talk about something that so many single women do that actually does more of a disservice than a service for them while they’re dating.

Most women actually do what I call mission based dating. Meaning, they date to get a husband and to get a baby. I want to offer to you that dating is not about that. Don’t get me wrong, the name of my company is Get Your Guy. But my job is to help my clients and the women that I work with become the women that are ready for the best relationship of their lives.

This dating journey is a journey for YOU. The guy you get at the end is the cherry on top. Dating is about you. It’s about the woman that you become. This requires doing more analysis while dating. What do I mean…?

When you’re, when you have a phone date, when you have a physical date, are you rating the date? Are you thinking about the conversation ratio? Are you thinking about how you felt during the date? Are you being intentionally vulnerable? These are just some of the variables that I ask after every date that my client goes on.

You have to understand that every experience and interaction with a man is not a waste. There’s a lesson to be learned. And if you’re not gleaning that lesson from each interaction that you’re having with a guy, you are probably not dating in a way that’s going to best serve you. It is when you are actually able to get those lessons that you are able to level up, that you are able to heal, and that you are able to get your guy.

If you need help with that, please reach out to me. But please, I don’t want to hear, “I don’t want to waste my time, or I’m so concerned that I’m going to fail when it comes to dating.”

No, girl. Learn the lessons. Go on the dating journey, because that journey will help you find yourself, and when you find yourself, you will find him.

I get women into relationships every week. I see it each and every week. I hope this helps.

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