Single Black Women – Non-Black Men Are Checking For Youuu!!!!

June 10, 2025

Hey girl, I have a special message for you. These non black men are checking for you! They’re checking for you. White, Hispanic, Indian. Uh, East Asian, Middle Eastern, they’re all checking for you. And I know you might think that they’re not., but they are. Sometimes we think that just because they weren’t checking for us in high school or college that they’re not checking for us now.

They are checking for you. So, what I want you to do is when you see them, when you’re engaging with them, give them the green light! Give them eye contact. Look at their feet. See if they’re pointing toward you. If their feet are pointing toward you, then you know that they are checking for you (body language 101)

But why aren’t they approaching you?

They’re not approaching you because they have the idea that your eyes are only for black men. And they’re not wrong. When I look at the data, what it tells me is that only 12 percent of black women are dating and in relationships interracially. Versus 24 percent of black men. These men are looking outside of you.

So I don’t understand this toxic loyalty toward them when they’re not even checking for you. Here’s what I want to offer to you, and this is why I’m having this conversation with you right now. 70 percent of black women are unmarried. This has to change. And part of this change is opening up your net and checking for these non-black men.

Because as you’ve heard me say already, they are checking for you. And I want to make sure that you find love. I don’t care what it looks like. I care that you get it and that it feels good to you.

If They Are Checking For Me, Why Don’t They Approach?

Girl, non black men flirt differently than black men and I’m gonna put you on game right now because I think that you’re used to a more assertive flirt from black and brown men that you are not even seeing how subtly these men are flirting with you.

So, I’m sure you’re used to black men that are catcalling you, I call it shouting and yelling, or barking at you, or grabbing your wrist or arm. That’s not what these non-Black men are going to do.

At least not the majority of them. What they are going to do is focus on cultivating a friendship with you first and foremost. And it’s going to feel weird to you, and you’re going to feel oblivious and not know the signs, because you’re not going to know if he’s being nice or if he’s flirting with you.

Here’s what I want you all to know. If he’s being nice and he’s talking to you for more than two to three minutes, he is flirting with you. And if you don’t believe me, think about your daily life and how many conversations you have with non-black men that are not working for you or in service to you.

Pretty sure not so many, right? So, please understand that if he’s staring at you more than twice, He’s into you. If his feet are pointing towards you, it is body language 101 to let you know that he is into you. And a lot of women are like, they stare all the time, they don’t do anything. Most non black men are not going to approach you because they think that you’re focused on black men and they don’t want to be rejected.

So, I want you to do what my mentors KP and Envy taught me how to flirt, which is. You walk over to him slowly, and say, I know you don’t know me, but then I want you to give him this line… “You seem to be staring at me a lot. Are you flirting with me, or should I be scared?

He’ll be right here at your palm, honey.

But let me take a step back, right? Because this is about being the main character in your love life. No more of this funny best friend energy. And if you have problems learning how to be the main character, where you are choosing the men versus waiting to be chosen, you definitely need to book a call with me, but if you don’t want to do that, that’s fine.

I want you to change your mindset. I want you to think of you hosting a party and you connecting with each and every person, that sort of energy is the energy that I want you to put in your love life. I hope this was helpful and a little bit fun.

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